A Quick Trip: Cincy

Monday, June 1, 2015

One funny thing about growing up in Pittsburgh is I was kind of trained to detest Cleveland, Cincinnati and Baltimore all in the name of the mighty Pittsburgh Steelers. BUT, then when I moved to Wisconsin anytime I meet anyone from one of those three places I feel like we have a connection—we're not so different after all.

Funny how moving can give you a whole new perspective. I highly recommend a far move-away-from-home at some point in your life, even if just for a year or two; it allows you to see things in a new light.

My sister now lives in Cincinnati, and for Memorial Day weekend I took a quick trip there to go to a wedding with her. It was, all in all, a great weekend. Even if you don't have an awesome twin sister residing there, thought I'd share a few fun ideas of things to do in the area!

1. Brunch at Sleepy Bee Cafe


This delicious brunch spot is walking distance from where my sister lives (in Oakley), and, although you should plan on waiting a bit on the weekends (it's a hot spot!) the local food is on point. I ordered a delicious omelet, but only thought to capture the giant cookie on camera. GET THE COOKIE. It has like a million things in it and is delicious.

2. Hike in Ault Park

Sometimes I think we wear too much lululemon if that's possible ;)
Before brunch, we had a nice Saturday morning hike with Becky's boyfriend and his dog in Ault Park. There are tons of trails and gardens, and we saw people taking family photos there (it's that pretty!) Worth checking out. Of course, I left my phone in the car (something I've been enjoying doing lately) so we only snapped this one picture on Becky's boyfriend's phone post-hike.

3. Visit Krohns Conservatory in Eden Park


I always enjoy wandering through conservatories and gardens (see this post on the Phipps Conservatory in Pittsburgh and this one on the Olbrich Botanical Gardens in Madison) and this one was no exception. Krohn Conservatory is not near as big as the Phipps in Pittsburgh, but they did have a fun "butterflies from the Phillipines" exhibit going on. Butterflies, although photogenic, are seldom still. But I did snap a few pics.



The conservatory is in Eden Park and from it you can easily walk to this overlook of the Ohio River. The Ohio River meets the Allegheny and Monongahela in Pittsburgh, so I always like seeing it. Reminds me of home.

4. Snack at Yagoot

I'm somewhat of a frozen yogurt connoisseur (that's something to brag about, I know) and Yagoot was exceptional! We went twice in three days. That good, you guys. We went to the location in Rockwood Commons, which is a shopping center that includes a J. Crew Factory and a Whole Foods. A nice place to shop!

And, on my Cincy still to-do list is to catch a Reds Game at the Great American Ballpark, of course.

Pre-wedding - both wearing J. Crew :)

Happy June, friends! xx

Advice on Writing, Vol. 3

Thursday, May 28, 2015

"Now, everyone always asks me what the secret to great writing is," Chuck Sambuchino began at the end of an all-day writing conference in Milwaukee. My ears perked up, "And for the first five years of working for Writer's Digest I honestly answered 'There is no secret.'" My ears perked down. (Is that a thing?)

"But, I've worked there for ten years now, and in the last five years, I've noticed something. A distinguishing 'secret' so-to-speak that sets apart wanna-be writers from actual writers. I also know that, from teaching this workshop many times, that this is the piece of advice you are most likely to ignore."

What is it? Whatisit? WHAT IS IT?

"The secret to writing is to put down the remote."

Womp, womp.



Of course, he had a point. He had THE point, really. Great writers make time for writing. You make time for writing by taking time you are spending on something else (cough *bingewatchingshows* cough) and repurposing that precious time for writing.

I did smile a little when he said 'put down the remote' because it seemed just a tad out-dated to me. Remote? I hardly use a remote. We don't even have cable (Just Netflix & an ESPN/HBO password). The remote is not my arch nemesis when it comes to writing. I still have one, though. It's smaller than the remote and much more powerful. Enter: the iPhone.

So, I started doing this incredibly bizarre thing when I want to write, uninterrupted. Turning off my iPhone, and turning off the internet.

Wait? The internet? Don't you need it to research? 

Short answer: No, not really.

I keep a pen and paper by me where I write down any questions I want to look up later online. I use a thesaurus (a real paper one!) if needed. Sounds crazy, but the benefits (uninterrupted writing time) far outweigh the costs (can't Google something in the name of "research"). From experience, 'researching' online seldom leads to great ground-breaking content for my book and often leads to me reading the entire life story of Laura Ingalls Wilder and the backstories of all the actors/actresses on Little House on the Prairie for no reason whatsoever.

Often, I give myself a one or two-hour all writing, no phone, no internet block. Even better if I'm in a public place (coffee shop) so I can't spend the entire 2 hours petting Tywin.

My only goal now is to do this much more often. I think if I did this four of five times a week I would be much more productive as a writer.

I do think this advice applies to really any goal, not just writing. For example, if you want to be an amazing cook? Put down the remote/iPhone. Do you want to be an amazing runner? An amazing singer? An amazing piano player? An amazing yogi? :) The opportunities are endless.

Do you have any good tips for making writing time or controlling iPhone addictions? Would love to hear!

P.s. I found this Lively Show on How to Get the Most out of your Fringe Hours helpful!
P.p.s. Writing advice from Cheryl Strayed.


Read This: The Art of Fielding

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Occasionally I read a book where I get entirely lost in the world the author paints. Usually, this happens with fantasy (Game of Thrones*, Harry Potter, etc.). But when I get absorbed in a fictional (but not fantastical) world built by a realistic book, it's even more enchanting because it feels SO REAL. That's exactly what Chad Harbach accomplished in The Art of Fielding, his debut novel.

*Aside: I wore black the entire weekend after I suffered the first "big death" in GOT.

If you're assuming this is a book about baseball, it is. It's also a book about unconventional relationships and Moby Dick and uncertainty and codependence and transitions. It's a book about art; it's a book about love. It's an astoundingly compelling book. It's my favorite book I've read so far this year.



First, baseball. Harbach follows the collegiate career of Henry Skrimshander, a quiet, smallish Short Stop with an exceptional talent for fielding, an obsession with St. Louis Cardinal's Hall-of-Famer Aparicio Rodriguez*, and a complete dedication to improving his game and taking it to the next level beyond being the star player for the Westish College Harpooners.

*Sadly, Aparicio Rodriguez is fictional just like Westish (a small liberal arts college on Lake Michigan in Wisconsin I wish I had attended).

Skrimmer's fire is fueled by the coaching and direction of motivational catcher Mike Schwartz, who may not be as infallible as Skrimmer assumes.

Full disclosure: Yes, compared to the rest of the world, I'd be considered a "sports person." I played basketball in college, for goodness sake. And, reading about Henry running bleachers brought back some all-too-specific memories. However, I am by no means a baseball person. My favorite part of baseball? Undoubtedly the bratwursts. 
One of those moments when you think "I love Wisconsin!"
Harbach defied the odds: He created a bizarre passion for baseball in me that I'm having trouble shaking off. Recently, I drove past a uniform-clad little league team, walking toward a baseball field and I got all nostalgic about memories that a.) weren't mine and b.) never actually happened.

Example #2: Stephen was playing a Ken Griffey Jr. baseball video game (ha!) the other night, and when I watched the Short Stop make a throw to first, I thought of Henry. Of course.

But who doesn't think of Henry at Westish? The school's first-ever prospect has an immense amount of pressure on his slight shoulders, and things don't go entirely as planned.

Lest you think the story is entirely about sports, the President of Westish, President Affenlight, has some secret personal involvement with the baseball team and his daughter, Pella, moves back to live with him as she's going through a divorce.

Pella provides a much-needed "big picture" perspective. With most male characters obsessively focused on a single goal (not unlike Captain Ahab in Moby Dick) Pella is more of a free spirit. The complex characters, Herman Melville undertones, and clever writing are sure to draw you into this unforgettable story.

When I set out to write this review, I knew I wouldn't do the book justice, but hopefully I've inspired you enough to give it a try! Or, at the very least, eat a brat. :)

What's your book you've read this year so far? Would love to hear!

p.s. Another page-turner with an underlying sports story.

The future freaks me out

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

It's obviously difficult for me to think about the future without thinking about Motion City Soundtrack. Didn't see that one coming, did you? ;) But really, is there a more aptly-named song than the future freaks me out? A friend burned me their CD in high school and gave it to me on the school bus (thanks Jenn!) and the song always makes me conclude that the more things change, the more they stay the same.

This month, The B-Bar asked these questions for their monthly link up:

What are you doing (now) to prepare for your future?
What do you think you should start doing to create a better future for yourself?


Right now, I'm focusing on two big areas of my future: writing and wellness.

Recently, I've written a lot more than I had in the past (not just this blog, I've finished a fiction manuscript and began another). I've also written a lot in this book: 642 Things to Write About. Yes, those in-the-book-writings are just pen-to-paper, and aren't published or even shared anywhere, but it's been a great way to leave writer's block in the dust. I've attended two incredibly educational writing conferences and pitched my book to four agents. I'm eagerly waiting to hear back!

Wellness-wise, I've been really trying to prioritize yoga and mediation. In general, I've been working on feeling more calm, and being more compassionate. I'm trying to use my 20's to build my "eulogy qualities" just as much as my "resume qualities." Now, it hasn't been an overnight transformation, by any means (I'm no Mother Teresa), but I'm trying. Taking small steps towards being a more compassionate person each day is important to me.

As far as question 2—I don't have all the answers, but I think it starts with continuing to show up for, and connect with, other people. Continuing to work hard at writing, and, perhaps most importantly, being open to change and vulnerable with others. Putting myself out there, whole-heartedly, without regret. Yes, those are all a little general and not very concrete, but I think that's okay. I've never been big on life plans, but I never regret time spent connecting with and learning from other people. This book has provided key insight on redefining success for me as well.

Another future goal: spend more quality time with my cat. Duh.


I'm going end this post with perhaps an overused quote, but one that resonates with me:

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." —Mark Twain

Now, make sure you pop on over to read everyone else's posts! I'm sure they'll be chock-full of Wednesday inspiration to make for a less-than-freaky future. And you might even find some awesome blogs you'll want to follow! xx


How to pitch a book

Monday, May 18, 2015

I drove over to the Milwaukee Writing Workshop on Friday, where I attended a day-long class by Chuck Sambuchino of Writer's Digest, and pitched to two agents at the end of the day. I'm looking forward to sharing some writing advice from Chuck later in the week (he offered many great tips!) but today, I wanted to talk about pitching your book to an agent. Talking about your book is a critical step in publishing a book—so practice, practice, practice (on anyone who will listen!) and get comfortable answering questions about it.

Pitching is a peculiar thing — it's exactly what you think it is, unless you're thinking about baseball, in which case, it's kind of like that, too. You throw your idea at an agent, who sits across the table from you, and strategically decides if they're going to take a swing at your idea, or not. If the rumors are true, usually agents choose to stand at the plate and watch your idea land in the catcher's mitt that's already overflowing with book ideas which weren't swing-worthy.


I would imagine the success rate for an agent hitting your pitch is lower than the .333 batting average which earns a hitter respect. Of course when pitching your book, you desperately want the agent to "take a swing" at and, if you're really lucky, "hit" your book idea, so there the baseball analogy fails. (Thank goodness, it was already quite the stretch ;)

You are the pitcher, who WANTS to be hit, which makes no sense. Just another time sport jargon fails to translate into real life.

Tangent: My favorite example of sports jargon failing is "par." In golf, of course, you WANT to be below par, but—in life—deeming a restaurant or hotel "sub-par" is decidedly a bad review. Why? Isn't sub-par good? Answer: only in golf. But doesn't par stem only from golf? Even if not, still, isn't golf the context we most associate par with? If you hear "par" and think of something other than golf, what is it? That last question is not rhetorical, I'm genuinely curious.

Back to pitching, sans baseball.

You sit across the table from one agent in a room full of agents for your time slot (probably 8 or 10 minutes), and now, it's your chance! Your chance to sell your book idea!

Of course, selling a book is nothing like writing a book. It is also a critical step in publishing a book. Everyone wants to write a book, that gets published, but no one wants to sell a book. People (especially non-writers) seem to think these are the steps: write a book --> publish a book. But it's more like write a book --> sell your book idea --> publish a book. And, if we're getting really future-thinking here, and a tad more descriptive:

1. Write a book (and edit extensively)
2. Sell your book idea to an agent
3. Agent sells your book idea to a publishing house
4. Edit your book with help of editor at publishing house
5. Publish your book
6. Sell your book to readers!

(Note: this is traditional publishing, not self-publishing or e-publishing. I see the merits of both types of publishing, depending on your goals, but I chose to pursue the traditional publishing route.)

Some people hate selling things, but I actually don't mind it. I think double majoring in both English and Business and working for a large corporation for 3+ years has allowed me to approach book-writing a little more realistically than I might have otherwise. 

I have now pitched four times and before each pitch I was incredibly nervous. Like doing-power-poses-in-the-bathroom nervous. But, I survived each time, and learned expert advice from agents each time, and was glad I did it each time! Writing conferences will provide info on agents beforehand: make sure you choose an agent who represents your genre. E.g. some agents represent only non-fiction. It's a waste of time (and money) to pitch your fiction book to them.

Rather than attempt a witty hook that could fall flat, I started my pitch with the facts after introducing myself: "I wrote a middle grade contemporary fiction book called (title) that follows (protagonist) as she..." and then went from there. The agents are sitting there (all day, sometimes!) listening to pitch after pitch after pitch of all kinds of genres, so I didn't want to make it too hard for them to follow. Also, things not to mention: This is my first book! I had friends beta read it and they liked it! I extensively edited it! The latter two are a given. The agent sure as heck hopes you edited it and had beta readers. If not, you're pitching it too soon. Also, mentioning it's your first book won't help your chances (and could hurt them), so best not to mention it!

After that, I dove into my pitch (I tried to keep it around 90 seconds) and then waited for feedback. The minutes following the 90-second-or-so pitch, were very conversational. Be prepared to answer incredibly specific questions. If the agent is interested, she'll likely ask you about word count, so know that too. Each time, the agent asked me thoughtful, specific questions (even if she wasn't interested in reading the manuscript), providing valuable insight into what agents look for.

While pitching, I focused on the very next step with pitching: convincing the agent its worth her time to read my book. 

You aren't (yet!) trying to convince her to publish thousands of copies and sell the foreign writes and—hey!—what about making it a trilogy with a three-part movie deal, maybe four, depending on box office success? ;)

So, if you walk away from your pitch with an agent asking for sample chapters, or a sample manuscript, yay!!!! But, if you walk away with valuable industry-expert advice for honing your story (or your pitch), it's also great, because you put yourself out there. You made yourself vulnerable. And only out of vulnerability can you really grow as a writer. 

Hopefully this was helpful if you're considering pitching—and, if you aren't, I hope it offered some insight into how traditional publishing works and some weird sports analogies to boot. I would love to answer more specific questions if you're prepping for pitching at a writer's conference! Feel free to contact me.


p.s. Writing advice from Cheryl Strayed and writing advice from John Dufresne that helped me manage "step #1."

p.p.s. Since I'm still (always) thinking about this — Does a sub-par golfer hit above par? Or is calling a golfer sub-par a compliment? Real questions, you guys. :)

Field Trip: Olbrich Botanical Gardens

Thursday, May 14, 2015

If you have a free hour or two this weekend and live in Madison, I highly recommend wandering the Olbrich Botanical Gardens. It's the perfect place to sit on a bench and read a book or go on a walk with a friend. As shown:


I read recently that exercise is the new coffee date. So, instead of grabbing a coffee (or a beer) with co-workers and friends, people are hitting yoga and cycling classes. I was recently talking to a friend whose brother works in private equity in New York City, and she said they'd even take clients to exercise classes instead of the usual wine-and-dine treatment. Crazy, huh? 

It's nice to see a shift where people care about fitness collectively, but, to be honest, work out classes can get expensive. The can also be hard. (Ha!) A walk in the FREE Olbrich Botanical Gardens sounds like a happy medium to me. :)


The gardens are right across the street from Lake Monona, so it's a really bike-able destination if you're feeling extra motivated. There's also lots of parking! There are all kinds flowers and trees, as well as pretty paths, benches, and even an ornate golden Thai Pavilion.


I recommend wandering as a fun way to spend an hour or two. When I'm feeling a lack of inspiration, I find spending some time in nature often does the trick.


Wherever you live, I hope you're surrounded by blooms this weekend and get to spend some time outside! xx

An Old Love Story and a New Puppy

Monday, May 11, 2015

On June 25 of 1946, Don was discharged from the U.S. Navy. He had just finished a 30-day "cruise" from Japan to San Francisco, with 4,000 other passengers. He slept on the sixth bunk on an eight-bed-high bunk bed. 

A month later, in Nebraska City, Nebraska, he met Mary. Three months later, on October 25, they got married in Omaha at a courthouse. They found a pastor from a random church to marry them, and pulled two little old church ladies from a simultaneous church pot luck to be their witnesses.


They have been married for 68 years.

Doesn't that sound like something a couple would say at the beginning of When Harry Met Sally?

That's the story of how my Great-Uncle Don and Great-Aunt Mary met. Mary is my dad's mom's sister. My parents and I drove out to Nebraska this past weekend to visit them, and a slew of other Nebraskan relatives. I was born in Omaha, but haven't lived in Nebraska since I was 9 months old.

I've always enjoyed traveling, even from a young age, but it took me a while to realize it really is the people I meet and interact with while traveling, even more than the places I've seen, that stay with me the longest.

Everyone has stories to tell — and hearing other people's stories helps me make sense of my own :)

I'll be driving back to Wisconsin from Nebraska tomorrow, but hope to be back to posting on Wednesday!


p.s. The pictures are of my cousin's new puppy, Cope. Isn't he adorable? I realize they are not in anyway related to the story (except, of course, I met Cope in Nebraska on the same trip I heard this story), but to me, one of the most challenging parts of blogging is this NEED for high quality images. If I have a good story, I want to share it, whether or not I have a high-resolution edited image. So, I decided to take this stance: If I have a good story, I'll share it. And if I have no new related pictures, I'll share dog or cat pictures. Because, if you don't like dog or cat pictures, what is wrong with you? :) And, of course, I'm an adamant a cat person, but this little guy is trying to make me a convert!